Caregivers Watch Lists #5-JEALOUSY
>> Saturday, August 29, 2009
JEALOUSY defined as an emotions triggered to an opposite individuals with anger, sadness, disgusts and has a feeling of losing something at the end of thoughts.
Jealousy also had big role in care giving work due to different attitudes of every employer. Some caregivers had a hard time dealing their employer if they meet friends outside during their daily routine of giving her/him walking exercise.In this particular situation we caregivers looking each others and waving hands behind their back and we understand what does it means.There are employers got jealous then keeping their caregivers inside the house without talking to any one even on their own cellular phones.If we are outside during clinic appointments some employers don't want the doctor talking to the caregivers specially if it is in English.And to the extended family and friends of where the caregiver was serving,some elderly don't like to see them talking or having fun and they got jealous.
I have been there before my early years in Tel Aviv and in other areas.That is one reason why I don't stayed them in long period of time working even they asked favor to stay or for an additional salary.In the first month that I felt and observed uncomfortable I immediately informed and asked the manpower agency as early as possible all things happening.Then I'm giving them my decision to go and end my contract whether they approve it or not.
Yes and yes ... I need to work for a living , I want to have salary every end of the month but what is money if life is in misery? For me I cannot bring money in heaven , I can still earn money without jealousy and just in a nice way as long as I'm healthy and safe .
SHIV'A YOMIM
>> Wednesday, August 26, 2009
This is the Jewish tradition of mourning their relatives after funeral. "Sitting" as they called it here that all friends and relatives is coming to join each and everyone to where the deceased live. But if the certain house is not good or no spaces for their guests they announced it where like sometimes in the house or place of one of their children.
Mourning of shiv'a yomim is depend from what blood race they came from like my employer in Tel Aviv. They are from Teman, they are so religious that after funeral friends came early morning until almost midnight to pray .A lot of elderly came and go to pray and pray and telling of stories of their origins to the young mourners to know. My next employer was from Baghdad that they only pray on the 7th and last day of mourning.There are also friends and relatives coming during the day time.So...it is something like working in different family race has different custom and tradition we followed.Also the food and the languages that sometimes we need to know the important translation of each word .But the most effective is the sign language to do.
Shiv'a yomim or sitting is like a reunion of friends and relatives of the deceased.They are coming with all their special bake cakes, bread and cookies.Siting with fun stories to every groups of peoples on each tables .It was so differently in my home country of mourning.
I also noticed that during the funeral they are not crying much or for their best they could is holding their breath of not to cry.Never I heard any sounds of cry or any. They are still trying to show of a half smile to all who joined them of their sympathies and loss.
During this shiv'a yomim most caregivers are also helping and still counting their days as working days.But there are families that after funerals they just giving schedule to their caregiver when and where to meet to settle their last obligations to workers.Sometimes even funerals they don't let the caregiver see the final resting place of her/his employer where they work day and night for how many numbers of years. So this is the end of everything for the good relationships between families and their caregivers. Very rare to families that after funeral they can still call or talk to their caregivers how is she going.Mostly employers relatives never remember the hardships or maybe I thought because they paid it all .
Increase Your Link Tag
Chuchie of "Chuchie's Hideaway" gave me this tag, Thank You very much again .
This tag is called "Increase Your Link Tag" since this will really help to increase your link. Actually, that is the main purpose of tagging, to increase the numbers of your linkers. So, here are the rules for this tag:
1. Try to make a post just like this one and mention this process.
2. From the list of blog sites below remove the number 1 and move the rest in the list 1 step higher (i. e number 2 becomes number 1, and so on). Add your blog name in the 5th position. Don't forget to copy the links. (Here's my list-my site added in the end)
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3. Basic Bloganomics
4. Chuchieshideaway
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THANKS!
My Employer's Two Best Friends Funeral
>> Tuesday, August 25, 2009
May they rest in peace. We attended my employer's two best friends funeral last Monday and yesterday, Tuesday. My employer was so sad that make her uneasy for the last few days and sleepless nights . The first one was older than my employer of about six months.They are best of friends since their very young age way back in Warsaw, Poland.The other one was younger than my employer but they are friends too since they've meet here and stayed in this kibbutz (village).
They have here different ways of funeral ceremonies. When one person died in the early morning they buried it immediately in the afternoon or before sunset if there is no family members they have to wait . If some children or grand children are need too come , the funeral office took and freeze the body in certain place. I don't know where , never seen morgue or funeral houses here.The funeral service van was big as like an ambulance that have complete stuffs needed for an emergency purposes. I am confused before that I thought it was also an ambulance but it was not .From the house of the deceased the funeral service personnel first checked the body then wrapped and tied with a cloth . They change the cloth to white and covered the coffin with black before the final walk up the grave.
Not all remains was using coffins that made of an ordinary plywood as thick as one fourth I've seen.I observed that the size of a coffin was longer than the height of each remains.In our country it was bad. It should be exact and no single centimeter distance above the head and below the feet of the remains.
First they gathered in one place like here they called it "mo'adon". This is a multi-purpose building where the painting exhibit show before, celebrating birthdays and other occasions, meeting of conferences, etc.Then next was the final walk up the cemetery.From the funeral service van they put directly to where its final resting place.They did not wait all people behind to see before they drop it to the hole.They don't have here a concrete grave which is elevated from the ground. It was dug and under the ground funeral. After all it was covered with sand every one was so silent . Every members of the family , sometimes friends or any one who want to say something how and what kind of person the deceased was or how to be a friend of the deceased, etc...etc...that most and every body was crying even I found grasping my teary eyed.
They fixed the grave after few months some are just in days, the above portion was put a concrete or marble finished with the names, date of birth and the day when they died. It was written sometimes where they came from and the cause of their death.
I'm Far from Normal for 2 weeks
>> Monday, August 24, 2009
I was just lucky that there is open connection here so I transferred my unit . I just ask the ten meter cable wire to reach the place where I put my pc so that I can blog. Read more...
RESULT of Filipino Blog of the Week Award Contest
>> Saturday, August 22, 2009
talksmart Congrats. This blog has won the 2nd place for week 174 of the Filipino Blog of the Week Award.
Ayayayyyy....I'm not the "FIRST PLACER",84.70% and mine is 78% as second place. Maybe I need to vote myself - bwahaha...but I don't want to, I feel cheated as if I'm eating my own flesh and drink my own blood, right folks? Helloooo...I'm not vampire hehehe.
Okey...okey I need to say personally thru this blog.. "Thanks to all who spend their time to the polling center (blog homepage) and casts their vote for me". It is a great pleasure to know bloggers vote and knowing me day by day as I treasuring this moments to be and most memorable days on my blog life.
To the author of this award contest....Sir, professor, eng'r,etc.etc...More power to you and thanks for sharing us your unlimited talent .I'll be proud to anybody here that there is one Filipino working on one project involving NASA project.I'm lucky that you've came across to my blog.
Hey...wait!..Can I ask another favor?please? Please come back to the polling center and VOTE FOR "vhing4all-il-ph" AGAIN.. please? This is not my fault, sigh. There is second round, 175th week they said.(aikzzz hirap mangampanya, rollyyy..napasubo na ako d2, hehehe)Hope to see back again and vote for me. Thank You! thank you! thank you..
TO: DHEMZ APDIAN DIAZ
>> Thursday, August 20, 2009
Visiting DOME of the ROCK!
>> Wednesday, August 19, 2009
YouTube, air craft carrier tube and here is the lumber Dome tube!!.2X6(thick/wide-inch) lumber built as a tube service way to go inside the vicinity of the dome.There is no way or no one can escape here if you are already inside . lol.
You will passed this Israeli Soldier guards but there is still in front of us ***the scanner room then before these is the first groups of guards. So don't try to bring any sharp item even the needle.okey?
End of that tube is this on the right side . While my groups are questioned of the looks they're wearing , so.. it is prohibited to roam around the place. Guards on that center point of the area instructed us to go the left side.....
...and here it is to rent some clothing just to cover the open area **the neckline and sleeveless wears. hmmpp...we stuck for half or more hours there that my companions decided not to go anymore. 80 shekels /pc (29$ est.) Last resort was I am the one who made deal until we reach to 10 shekels each (2.5$)...it's bargaining words ...we are not a tourist millionaire to visit here, we are just caregivers and how much salary we have ? the lowest salary according their law, we are not the white collar job workers here, so...our budget is only that amount while in fact we will return the clothing before we go out and there is no re-reimbursement for it . Am I right folks?....(wa-is gyud ini!medyo napaganda lng ang pag explain ko sa hebrew ko cguro)
Yeheyy...we are here in front of the golden dome that usually seen on tv news .Look what are the attire of my three companions . They are not allowed to go around or they must leave the area without that costume they rented. owwssss... looks funny.So don't wear blouses with open front and back. I said this is a Holy Arab Sites and we are still lucky that they did not wrapped our eyes or our head. ngeee...If what ever policies , I will still go on to see the place ,hehehehe.
This is not the parking area and never could any vehicles enter the area. I turn around looking the edge of every corner walls they put up here and its a wide wide place to visit.I can't imagine seeing on tv news few years back when Palestinian President Arafat came here that this outside grounds and inside of the dome filled with peoples. Of course they are from Arabs families praying and praising Arafat's visits here. This area under my eye estimates is more than or more or less ten hectares or I don't know how wide to filled peoples that even throwing needles can not drop the ground . That was seen on the web satellite image before. Now I'm here where those Arabs came from and in what , where gates they walked through until they got inside.? Deep thoughts if you are here folks.
Behind me are prayers they said written in Arabic word. There is string around to avoid tourist stepping the spotted place . See that small piece of carpet where they knelled down during their prayers.
Did you see that old woman upstairs wearing in black? They have here also- the beggar!.
This is another group of tourist from Mexico , I asked one of them after their tour guide finished explaining about the place. We don't have tour guide and no need to get one!lol.
He is an Israeli tour guide greet me on his way up to the dome and we are going down from the dome.He greeted and ask me few words using Hebrew language and behind us are his tourists visitors.
We are in the half way of this wide area of the dome , here is the lower or the lower plaza and there is another building over there but we did not checked maybe next time .We need to go to another area to visit.
What I'm saying here are the things that I saw during my visits. For history and other informations just click "Dome" above.You can inlarge all images also here. Read more...
VOTE for ME as "vhing4all-il-ph"
>> Saturday, August 15, 2009
Hi. This blog has been nominated for the Filipino Blog of the Week award (week 174). You may visit the site and vote. Poll is on the sidebar
This is the message from my tag board "survivor" early morning I've read today. Lil surprise me that I ignored for early moments of the day . My daily routine was wake up early doing my personal necessities then coffee time in front of my computer.And then I went back and scroll again the tag board.I have one hour before I will start my duty because today is Saturday , a day for the children's visits for their mother. I need to fixed everything specially my old woman before they come.
Immediately I went to the said blog, I never remember that it was blog on my list and checked the never listed blog name .I just added today The Composed Gentleman It came across to my mind to tell all my best friends blogger and the speedy few reply vote came out. It was a big puzzle for me WHO? recommends my blog in that certain site.But after lunch time for my two hours break I decide to publish.
In regard of this ...I would like to THANKS who ever behind this RECOGNITION as I could say now. This will give me a big boosts in my blog life , if somebody could imagine how to updates and maintains four blogs and at same I'm working as caregiver. I am private caregiver living 24 hours to an intelligent woman with all her children had a big names on billboards of this country Israel. This a puree life of caregivers experiences, as being my self and friends caregivers that I spoke with every Sunday hearing their stories.
Why I said RECOGNITION??? because this blog was authored by me and they called it "underdogs" . I'm totally happy if somebody telling me that, crazy!right? but it was the way I deeply accept of being who I am now and I'm crazy passionate to be on my job now.To those who left comments, messages on tag boards, visitors and guest if ever I will WIN it is for ALL OF YOU who WINS and not me either. Because of YOU!YOU!and YOU over there who inspired me to continue this blog that I almost give up before my early months in blogging.
So...come on down and vote for me as "vhing4all-il-ph". Just click "talksmart or The Composed Gentleman or even this line"THANKS.... have a nice weekend folks!
swine flu updates
>> Friday, August 14, 2009
August 14, 2009 - 8th deaths recorded for H1N1 latest updates, please read here
August 18,2009 - 10th death toll as the latest updates on H1N1 I noticed in everyday reading of every news here that mostly died are those patient diagnosed with cancer and other illness of elderly but they acquired or infected with this swine flu. Today's latest victims was reported from Hadassah Hospital in Jerusalem.
sweet "maha"
Food cooking time folks and here is what I will share for all of you. I'm the fastest chef caregiver ever! lol. I always cook the easy easy ways like mixing all ingredients then taste it and that's it! Stirring sideways , clockwise or counter clockwise and even crosswise until it becomes sticky then become more sticky up to 30 minutes of rolling. Taste if the corn flour are cooked then put to any baking pan with any designs you choose and let it cold to fridge.So yummy.... below are the ingredients I bought and mixed to a cooking pot.
And ....sorry I never saw this food on any occasions we've been since before. How many weddings,birthdays,barmitzvah(dibut) and dinner we attended. But take a look of all the ingredients I used its all from their supermarkets too. Read more...
6th victim of H1N1 in Israel
>> Thursday, August 13, 2009
A 40-year-old man died on Thursday morning at Petah Tikva's Beilinson Hospital, apparently as a result of complications from swine flu.
todays news August 13,2009 at JPosts headlines
H1N1 in ISRAEL counts 5 victims
>> Sunday, August 09, 2009
High fever and sour throat bothered my caregiver friend in Tel Aviv that she used to call me if she need to bring her 8 year son to the hospital. Worries to all not just locals but also to all migrant worker like us because the news around the country was dominated by this swine flu.For the whole week that all news on tv telecast until Friday ,August 07, 2009 the ministry of health announced the fifth victim of said H1N1 in the country.
The latest news as of yesterday , Sunday another 15 people or nearly under 60 reported in serious conditions and struggling to survive on its complications of H1N1.
Lucky enough that after giving some medications at home my friend son's fever was out in the mid day.She gave more fruits to swallow so phlegm was carried away from the throat and a lot of liquid intake as forms of drinks.Rest is also the main factor and need to do if there is something or if we are not feeling well.
" alzhiemer patient"
>> Friday, August 07, 2009
On this video I found was stated some signs, symptoms and stages of Alzheimer's disease patient.Caregivers coordination's to the families of the patients is important to talk and hear the behaviour of the patients. Learning and coping up both strategy how to deal with in time of crisis or if the patient will get wild and crazy.One thing I observed and learned in my previous employer was how the son talk to his Alzheimer mother.Note if the families are already accepted the realities of having Alzheimer's parents or relatives, husband or wife's.The son narrated the happy moment's and the achievements of the mother during her early years that his mother was not yet suffering this disease. Believed me my patient/employer was smiling and laughing then , not in long period of time but in few minutes and it became silent and behaving in next hours.
Do you believed that Alzheimer patients can move things inside the house that you could hardly imagine? Or even you yourself you cannot transfer a washing machine from the bathroom area up to the outside door that is beside the elevator but if the Alzheimer's getting wild unbelievably they can do it.Note that I'm citing here an old woman suffering from Alzheimer disease but she is physically fit, she can make things alone but not in the right time and not in the right place or everything was in reverse way.I am always said that I'm not a medical expert nor a medical graduate, I'm just sharing what my experiences was and things what I've see and learned while I'm here as private caregiver.
Understanding to both caregivers and patients is one factor of having a success in caring of an Alzheimer's patient. Experts and specialist giving the life span of Alzheimer's patients but who knows when is the right time they go for rest and end their sufferings. Read more...
award from KAT&BENCHIE
>> Thursday, August 06, 2009
I am passing this award to the following bloggers : The Dias Family Spot , My Life Story, My Thoughts in Daily Living , Kitchen...the Heart of Our Home and to all my followers who have time to post this award . Please don't hesitate to grab this guys..... Read more...
PAALAM PO GINANG CORY AQUINO...
>> Wednesday, August 05, 2009
I felt the loneliness specially when the tv screen shown KRIS crying to all the words around she heard and received, she is grown up now and I'm sure more and more on coming days.I'm not an avid fan of hers but to her late mother I faithfully did and always be .The truth is I joined that ONE MILLION SIGNATURE for Tita Cory but sad to say I NEVER VOTE nor went to any voting center on that time of election.It was been a long and great convincing strategies of my schoolmates that we need to signed up that one million signature rolling in the universities. Why? I promise to myself I will never vote again because I grewn during that dictatorship regime so... if I will vote I believed it is all worthless.
First I meet Kris personally when they have to shoot tele-series on tv with Jimmy Fabregas at Robinson's Hypermart in Boni Ave.Mandaluyong way back early 1990's.She was not that pretty on my eyes those days unlike now but she greeted us in a nice way.I was newly promoted as an assistant supervisor at that time when she came in at our Bakeshop & Coffee shop section while I'm doing my rounds then she joined us."Good afternoon Mam, you have pretty cashiers here" then she pointed at Rachel Barraca our probationary cashier that later turned to regular cashier employee under my recommendations."Pwede s'ya mag artista kung gusto nya", (she could be a celebrity if she wants) then went out after few minutes to start filming in the parking area between Apartelle and the supermarket building.
To all my fellowmen let us pray for the everlasting peace of "Tita Cory" and the continuing freedom and democracy of our country. PAALAM PO at MARAMING SALAMAT PO AGAIN.... . Read more...
ISSUES ABOUT MIGRANT WORKERS KIDS
>> Monday, August 03, 2009
**Tel Aviv is home to almost 90 percent of the country's migrant workers. Migrant families are mostly from the Philippines, South America and Africa, with smaller numbers from Nepal and India. They are mostly work as caregivers for the elderly, as well as in housekeeping and agriculture.**
Here are some related reports you can read Efforts to stop deportations of illegal workers kids and
Protesters demand solutions for foreign illegal workers kids .It was also said that they are doing deportations because most locals are not employed.This is also another story you can read.
It was last Friday when my employer showing me the newspaper(above image) that those are children's of "metapehlet"(caregiver to elderly) don't want to go home but want to stay here to become ISRAELIS.Next day Saturday was also on the news at channel 2, local tv news report the above story and the story of Mrs.Cory Aquino who passed away.(sources of these news are from Jerusalem Post) Read more...